Queen
Okafor is a unique woman with unique features. She has a rare endowment
from nature. Looking at her, one would think she is a man, but she is a
full blooded woman.
Queen, as her name suggests, has become a celebrity of sort whenever
she steps out in public as the people stare at her in amazement. Queen’s
attraction is an abundance of hairs all over her body especially in the
upper region- face, hands, chests etc. Although she was born without
much hair on her body, she gradually began sprouting them at the age of
21 years. Today, at 26, Queen has done many things humanly possible to
stop the abnormal growth, but to no avail.
Narrating her experience, Queen said she started noticing the hair at
unusual places at the age of 21. According to the Anambra State born
lady, she has seen the good, the bad and the ugly because of her
abundant hairs. She said she has become the cynosure of all eyes
wherever she goes, sometimes to her utter embarrassment. At one time,
she narrated how a gay person approached her to have an*l s*x with her,
promising to pay her a princely sum of N500,000.
She said this was the most terrible encounter she has had on account
of her hairs. She, of course, refused the offer. She said even lesbians
also “toast her” to hangout with her because they found her attractive
in both ways, both as a man and as a woman. When this reporter met Queen
in a bus going to Oshodi from Mile 2, in Lagos some months ago,
passengers were starring at her embarrassingly. As the lady tried to
hide her face, more eyes were on her, thus arousing much interest from
co-passengers.
Queen eventually opened up to this reporter, maintaining that she was
not using the story to beg for money or as a form of publicity stunt,
but only to draw the attention of NGOs to fight for women with such rare
disability as hers. Queen believes that she is a normal person with
unwanted recognition from the society. She told Sunday Sun: “My name is
Queen Nonyerem Okafor. I am from Anambra State. We are five children
from our parents, three girls and two boys. I inherited the hairs from
my mum and it runs in the family.
Once you get to 21 to 23 years in our family, you start experiencing
hair growth. I am 26 years old now, when I was in secondary school, much
hairs were not on my body. It started when I finished my secondary
school. I am not granting you this interview as if I need help or money,
no! I want to tell my story and what it means to be a hairy woman.
All I need is for an NGO to take up my case as a woman with abnormal
conditions and also to act in the movie industry.” She revealed to
Sunday Sun that the change on her skin initially made her uncomfortable,
but following advice from good people, her confidence was boosted. In
her words: “The first time it started to grow on my body, I was ashamed,
but someone advised me that I shouldn’t bother, that it is a blessing
not a curse. The person told me that I am unique, besides, wherever I
go, I would be recognised. She advised me that I shouldn’t be ashamed,
rather that I should be proud of myself.
It was her that gave me strength and boosted my self esteem. Some
people think that I am a man. Some think I fixed my chest to deceive
people. Men especially find it difficult to believe that I am a woman.
It was when we interact that most men are reassured that I am a woman.
It has made me to be very popular and recognised in public. It has
boosted my confidence to socialize. People want to identify with me to
know the stuff I am made of. Some want to find out where this girl is
coming from.
People call and dash me money because of my hairy nature, but I don’t
beg for money.” Queen said she tried to stop the work of nature by
applying all sorts of cosmetics and native substances, all to no avail
but it turned out to cause more harm than good. “Before the advice came,
I was asking God why all these now? I was thinking of what to rub to
clear the hair from my skin. I rubbed tortoise faeces and a lot of
things people recommend for me to use, but it didn’t remove them, rather
it caused more harm than good as I started growing bumps and sores
while the hair was still coming out.
So, I stopped rubbing those things. I suffered those lumps trying to
stop the growth,” she narrated. She revealed that her worst time comes
when the weather is too hot and during the dry season. “When there is
much heat, I feel terrible, it doesn’t itch but it really inconveniences
me most times. That`s why I have to wear or put on light cloths because
sweat soaks my dress when I go out.
Once you see me, you know that heat is dealing with me as a result of
my hairy skin. I used to shave it off but if I want to shave all, it
will cause me lumps all over my body. She said she had not taken the
medical option seriously. “I have not gone to hospital. I don’t care
anymore because it is from within my blood and it is hereditary. I don’t
need it because I can`t be using my money on something that refuses to
free me. A doctor had advised that surgery can remove it, but not in
Nigeria. Maybe outside the country, but I am not interested.”
Queen revealed that her hair has not changed anything in her love
life, neither does it stop men from admiring her, rather it has turned
many heads to look at her. “A man that is meant for me will come when
the time comes. It is not a problem. I will get married, after all,
there are other disabled people that are married despite their
condition. When I was 18 or 19 years old, I was supposed to have
married, but it was just that the man was a hot tempered person. He was
my suitor and we ended it there. He was seeing the hair coming little by
little.
People are appreciating me and a lot of people are still coming for
my hand in marriage. I have been seeing many men coming to ask me for
relationship, even one claimed he is from a European country that he
came back to Nigeria to look for a woman to marry. But most men just
want a fling, they don’t want serious relationship. I was doubting if he
was real or not. I have admirers just like every other girl. Most
times, I have admires more than normal girls. But most men are not
sincere, my mother would say that love is not by lip service.
I have been hearing things like, I want to marry you, but after
sleeping with you, the man will end up dumping you for another woman. My
boyfriend likes me the way I look and I have not been dumped because I
am hairy. Men don’t break my heart. I don’t trust men easily because I
wouldn’t allow myself to have emotional breakdown. I can`t wait for my
heart to be broken. In my village, an old woman has advised that she
knows that I am not yet married, but I should believe that my own person
is coming. She said that when my husband will come, I will find it
difficult to believe that the man is my own. She told me that is how her
own daughter looks.
But now I have come to appreciate how I am created,” she said.
Narrating her most embarrassing moment in high density locations like
market places, she disclosed that people crave to see her face. “I came
to Lagos last year to see whether I can stay in Lagos or not. Other
times I have been coming and going. But the truth is that I have been
enjoying my stay in Lagos now because something good is happening.
Anytime I go out, people will notice my presence and look at me. For
instance, the first time I went to Ladipo Market, people besieged me,
both traders and touts snapping me with their phones and video.
You would be shocked how they gathered and caused chaotic situation
that day, you would have written it as big news, to the extent that I
went to a shopping complex and they started clapping for me, calling me
Eze Nwanyi, which means Queen. They were hailing me so much. It was the
most embarrassing day of my life. The traders and touts left what they
were doing to follow me around and saying all sorts of things, if not
for one man that offered to give us a lift, we wouldn’t have escaped
those boys.
There was a time I went to Alaba International Market with a sister
and traders were peeping through the window to see my face and they were
saying, ‘she is all hairs oh!’ Someone has stepped down from a bus
because of me, a lady. Both of us were entering a bus at Mile 2 and
immediately she glanced at me she changed her mind and immediately
alighted from the bus despite that the bus conductor was urging her to
enter, that was the only time someone refused to ride in the same bus
with me.
Queen whose dream is to become an actress, said she was forced to
resign because of s*xual harassment from her employer. “If I have the
opportunity of becoming an actress, I can do that but it is to get the
right person to help me. I need somebody to help me because I am perfect
in everything I do. I need someone to put me through but people tell me
that for some producers or directors, all they are after is to sleep
with you. I have not encountered that yet, but people have been telling
me to be careful. People get easily attracted to me. The dark
complexioned Queen shocked the reporter with her revelation on how
homosexuals plead to take her to bed. She also explained why she pierced
her nose.
“Why I pieced my nose was because it is fashionable, though I know I
look weird already, I don’t give a hoot. It is my body, I accept the
fact that I am strange. A woman has toasted me at Elegushi Beach while I
was there with my friends. On that day, she called me and gave me her
complimentary card and begged me to hop into her car, but I refused. She
insisted and begged to be my friend, but my mind told me that she is a
lesbian and she was inviting me to Ajah.
I turned her offer down because I know that most lesbians are into
cultism. Some women will see me and extol my qualities, saying that they
see women with hairs but that my own is the highest. In fact, one said I
am the queen of hairy women. I met a guy at a supermarket and he was
obsessed about me, before you knew it, he started telling me that he
liked me, that I am beautiful and all that. Normal toasting, I thought
he was like every other man as usual, but after the toasting, he went
straight to the point, to tell me that he would like to have s*x with me
through my anus, promising to give me half a million naira.
But I rejected it immediately, God forbid! I can`t tamper with my
anus. I stopped seeing him and refused to pick his calls. I can`t do
that. Another man begged me to bear him a child that will look like me,
also promising to reward me handsomely. When I am praying, I plea with
God to help me overcome them.
Nobody can r*pe me because I am fearful, but men see me and get
sexually aroused because I look special because of the hairy skin, but I
have not been embarrassed or defiled. Being hairy gives me protection
as people see me and get afraid of me. Those guys who attack people see
me and hail me. They will not like to do anything bad to me